Author: Anita
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16 Ways to Protect the Rights of Women and Girls
Do you think we can actually find 16 ways to protect the rights of women and girls? The countdown to #16days of Activism Against Gender-Based Violence campaign kicked off on November 25, International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women. This campaign is designed to raise awareness about gender-based violence. This post is pretty…
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MARRIAGE IS A TWO-WAY STREET
Yes! Marriage is a two-way street! And it is high time we started messaging it to couples that way. It is not 50-50, it is 100-100. You bring your 100 and the other party brings theirs. Given, you will not always feel like 100 all the time, but when you take a posture that says…
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An Open Letter to Orphans
Eighteen years ago yesterday (October 17th), I lost my mum to the cold hands of death. At that point, I had lost my dad 2 years prior. I felt naked and exposed when my father died. Now imagine my mum also gone! I lost my dad when I was 16 years old. By the time…
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Breaking the Silence: Why More People Are Speaking Up About Mental Health
Why are more people speaking up about mental health lately? Recently, I have been hearing people in my community ask (somewhat almost in frustration)- “why is everyone talking about mental health and being traumatized today?” To be honest, some are genuinely wondering why people tend to ‘lack resilience’ these days. Others are worried that some…
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The role of parents in navigating relationship with estranged children
The role of parents in navigating relationship with estranged children is one not often talked about. Why? Culture! Our culture says the elder is never wrong, right? Wrong! Let me share a story with you. AN IMPACTUFL EVENT OF MY LIFE Everyone was seated around the living room. My heart was pounding and my palms…
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How to Navigate ‘Difficult’ Parental Relationship
In our last blogpost we talked about why people cut off their parents- we stated 5 reasons. Today, we talk to children on how to navigate relationship with ‘difficult’ parents so it does not lead to estrangement. Whether you are considering cutting off your parents or might have already, this is for you. Truth be…
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Why Can’t I Cut Off My Parents?!
“I am blocking my mother and no one can tell my not to”. “Why can’t I cut off my parents?” Cutting off parents is something that seems to be prevalent in today’s world. At the head of this table, are millennials and Gen-Zs. Try intervening and they fire back with questions like “why can’t I…
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Dear Anita – My Friend Was Raped to Death Because of Sanitary Pads
Dear Anita, My Friend Was Raped to Death Because of Sanitary Pads. How much does sanitary pads cost?! A rhetorical question. Whatever the cost, is it really worth a life? My friend- a beloved friend, she comes from a family where the parents could barely afford their basic needs. Hence, they paid less attention and…
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Is the boy child at risk? Nurturing the 21st Century Boy Child
Is the boy child at risk? Have you ever wondered (like me), what nurturing the 21st century boy child means for the boy child and the kind of parenting style to support that? Yesterday was international day of the boy child and while we really should have these conversations everyday, let us hone in a…
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Dear Anita…I was almost Raped by my Parish Priest
I was picked as the leader of a group in my church ( parish level) called HCA Holy Childhood Association. All leaders from different parishes meet once a month. So he( the priest ) who is mobile, would pick some of us who can’t afford transportation to the venue. That’s how I got to know…
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THE SIGNIFICANCE OF CAUTION IN SOCIAL MEDIA
Lately, I’ve been scrolling through Instagram excessively. I realized that I’ve been using it as a distraction, but unfortunately, this habit has led to feelings of inadequacy and dissatisfaction. I found myself constantly comparing my life to the ‘seemingly perfect’ lives of influencers. Just like I put myself under undue pressure over the […]
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CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY: HOW I MOVED ON FROM TRAUMA
Key Word – CHOOSE to be happy. Many people think that trauma marks you for life. Well, sorry but trauma does not mean your life ends and all hope is lost. This was what I realized and knew I would choose to be happy and move on from all my traumatic experiences. For those who…
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DOES GOD HATE WOMEN?
Does God HATE Women? That was a thought I honestly had walking away from a conversation I had years back. “How can you be so intelligent and say you believe in the ‘Christian God?’ said this random guy who had approached me to preach gnosticism to me. “Any of the Abrahamic religions marginalizes women”- he…
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THE MANY FACES OF BULLYING – BREAK THE CHAIN
When we think about bullying, we only think of kids on a playground. But if I told you the chain of bullying is longer than kids on a playground? Yes, there are many faces of bullying and the story of Jade and Tony, gives us insight into how far back that chain can go, or…
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Dear Anita….I was raped on Valentine’s Day
Dear Anita, I was raped on Valentine’s day and it hurts! A day that was supposed to be about love quickly turned to hate for me. I hate him! And I hate myself! How do I live with this? This is the story of a survivor. It holds a lot of lesson and insights (summarized…
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WHAT TO DO IF YOU FIND OUT YOUR CHILD IS ENGAGED IN PORNOGRAPHY AND MASTURBATION!
Did I hear you say God forbid! I say AMEN! But sadly, some kids are unfortunately trapped in porn and masturbation. Many of them are crying out to us for help. Maybe they came out to you on their own or perhaps you caught them in the act. What then do you do? I know…
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Welcome to 2023- Why LoudSilences?
Welcome to 2023! I hope you are off to a great start of the new year. In loudsilences.org, we are excited. On February 18, 2023, LoudSilences is going to be THREE years old! Yes, you heard that right. The very first post went out on this day in 2020- Welcome to LoudSilences- Turn it Up!…
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You Are An Orphan And So What?!
Anita, you are an orphan, so what?! Believe it or not, it was a question I asked myself one day while I was feeling sorry for myself. Boy in those days, I threw the best pity parties for myself. And I would excuse all my bad behaviours on this ground- I am an orphan. Until…
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Dear Anita…..
Dear Anita, My heart is heavy. I know I need to talk to someone but unsure who. God is the obvious answer and prayer is the key, true! But the truth is, I cannot talk to God because I feel so dirty and disgusted with myself. How could I still be bound in pornography and…
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Have You Heard About The Mirabal Sisters?
Have you heard about the Mirabal Sisters? If you have, great! Not? Well, today you will hear about them. Let’s try this! Ever heard of “International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women”? Again, great if you have. And if not, again, you will hear about them. Well, what does the Mirabal sisters and…