Author: Anita

  • Is the boy child at risk? Nurturing the 21st Century Boy Child

    Is the boy child at risk? Nurturing the 21st Century Boy Child

    Is the boy child at risk? Have you ever wondered (like me), what nurturing the 21st century boy child means for the boy child and the kind of parenting style to support that? Yesterday was international day of the boy child and while we really should have these conversations everyday, let us hone in a […]

  • Dear Anita…I was almost Raped by my Parish Priest

    Dear Anita…I was almost Raped by my Parish Priest

    I was picked as the leader of a group in my church ( parish level) called HCA Holy Childhood Association. All leaders from different parishes meet once a month. So he( the priest ) who is mobile, would pick some of us who can’t afford transportation to the venue. That’s how I got to know […]

  • THE SIGNIFICANCE OF CAUTION IN SOCIAL MEDIA

    THE SIGNIFICANCE OF CAUTION IN SOCIAL MEDIA

    Lately, I’ve been scrolling through Instagram excessively. I realized that I’ve been using it as a distraction, but unfortunately, this habit has led to feelings of inadequacy and dissatisfaction. I found myself constantly comparing my life to the ‘seemingly perfect’ lives of influencers. Just like I put myself under undue pressure over the […]

  • CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY: HOW I MOVED ON FROM TRAUMA

    CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY: HOW I MOVED ON FROM TRAUMA

    Key Word – CHOOSE to be happy. Many people think that trauma marks you for life. Well, sorry but trauma does not mean your life ends and all hope is lost. This was what I realized and knew I would choose to be happy and move on from all my traumatic experiences. For those who might be here for the first time […]

  • DOES GOD HATE WOMEN?

    DOES GOD HATE WOMEN?

    Does God HATE Women? That was a thought I honestly had walking away from a conversation I had years back. “How can you be so intelligent and say you believe in the ‘Christian God?’ said this random guy who had approached me to preach gnosticism to me. “Any of the Abrahamic religions marginalizes women”- he […]

  • THE MANY FACES OF BULLYING – BREAK THE CHAIN

    THE MANY FACES OF BULLYING – BREAK THE CHAIN

    When we think about bullying, we only think of kids on a playground. But if I told you the chain of bullying is longer than kids on a playground? Yes, there are many faces of bullying and the story of Jade and Tony, gives us insight into how far back that chain can go, or […]

  • Dear Anita….I was raped on Valentine’s Day

    Dear Anita….I was raped on Valentine’s Day

    Dear Anita, I was raped on Valentine’s day and it hurts! A day that was supposed to be about love quickly turned to hate for me. I hate him! And I hate myself! How do I live with this? This is the story of a survivor. It holds a lot of lesson and insights (summarized […]

  • WHAT TO DO IF YOU FIND OUT YOUR CHILD IS ENGAGED IN PORNOGRAPHY AND MASTURBATION!

    WHAT TO DO IF YOU FIND OUT YOUR CHILD IS ENGAGED IN PORNOGRAPHY AND MASTURBATION!

    Did I hear you say God forbid! I say AMEN! But sadly, some kids are unfortunately trapped in porn and masturbation. Many of them are crying out to us for help. Maybe they came out to you on their own or perhaps you caught them in the act. What then do you do? I know […]

  • Welcome to 2023- Why LoudSilences?

    Welcome to 2023- Why LoudSilences?

    Welcome to 2023! I hope you are off to a great start of the new year. In loudsilences.org, we are excited. On February 18, 2023, LoudSilences is going to be THREE years old! Yes, you heard that right. The very first post went out on this day in 2020- Welcome to LoudSilences- Turn it Up! […]

  • You Are An Orphan And So What?!

    You Are An Orphan And So What?!

    Anita, you are an orphan, so what?! Believe it or not, it was a question I asked myself one day while I was feeling sorry for myself. Boy in those days, I threw the best pity parties for myself. And I would excuse all my bad behaviours on this ground- I am an orphan. Until […]