Author: Anita
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3 WAYS KINDNESS MAKES YOU HAPPIER
Anyone who has willingly visited an orphanage to give to the fatherless or has given to another worthy cause will probably tell you that they felt a sense of happiness doing what they did. People struggle with being kind, so we want to offer 3 ways kindness makes you happier. That’s just the way it…
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Undoing the Culture of Silence: Organizations at Work- TGIF
When it comes to undoing the culture of silence, there are organizations making great strides, and The Goodness Impact Foundation (TGIF) is one of them. In this blog, we decided to put a spotlight on organizations that have shown commitment to issues around gender-based violence, mental health, women and youth empowerment. The purpose is to…
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7 SIMPLE WAYS TO CARE FOR YOUR MENTAL HEALTH
People hear the word mental health and they want to hide. But mental health is simply part of your health and caring for it is simple. So we want to share 7 simple ways to care for your mental health. The thing about these is that they are so simple, they often get overlooked. This…
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5 THINGS THAT IMPACT THE MENTAL HEALTH OF A GIRL CHILD
Today, we will talk about 5 things that impact the mental health of a girl child! The month of October holds both world mental health and international day of the girl child. We thought it made sense to marry both topics into one. Sometimes, we see our child change behaviours and it feels like they…
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3 THINGS NEVER TO SAY TO SOME WHO IS DEPRESSED
I know the word ‘Depression’ is scary to so many of us, that we would rather not ‘deal’. Sometimes, we try to help, but the wrong words comes out. So in today’s write-up, we want to share with you 3 things never to say to someone who is depressed. But first… ….What is Depression? The…
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Dear Younger Me…
Dear younger me, I just want to let you know that we turned out okay! Last week I got this picture of my younger self from a cousin, I must have been eight years old. What do you think I did first, looking at this picture? I looked long and hard at this picture, and…
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MY FAMILY’S BEST KEPT SECRET
Every family has secrets. I am sure many would agree with me. But would you share yours with me? Some say I spilled my family’s best secret in my new book. But did I? “Seriously, Anita, how can I have a husband who is ‘touching’ my child and I would say or do nothing about…
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“Why Now?” Answering the Question of Why Sexual Violence Survivors ‘Stay Silent’
As I resume writing again on loudislences.org, I was thinking about what people might feel about my ‘silence’ for the last couple months on this platform. While this was due to some life-evalution I was undertaking, I could not help but feel like I owed my readers an explanation. But it was not the first…
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How to Manage Your Triggers
Anyone who has been through any type of trauma may have experienced or will experience ‘being triggered’. But I have come to learn that not everyone knows how to manage these triggers when they occur, more so being proactive about it. In my last post, I wrote about understanding triggers, now let us learn how…
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Understanding Triggers
Would you agree that a problem you don’t understand you cannot effectively deal with? Same holds true for understanding triggers. As someone who experienced trauma, I had a lot of triggers. On my parents’ birthday or death anniversaries, I used to get depressed. Or when I spoke to certain people from my past, I would…
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“Woman, Thou Art Loosed”
“Woman, Thou Art Loosed”! It is a book title authored by Bishop T. D. Jakes. There is a movie on the title as well. I have read the book and seen the movie. You should see it or read it. Thank me later. *wink* DISCLAIMER- many men will see ‘WOMAN’ and be like this is…
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Excuse Me, What is your Excuse?
“Bimpe, Bimpe, Bimpe! How many times did I call you? This life you want to live will not benefit you one bit. Change!”. Mrs. Daniels was trying to advice Bimpe about not ‘selling herself cheaply to me’. “Excuse Me, what is your excuse this time?” Bimpe fired back. “What did you say?” Mrs. Daniels asked.…
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When We Were Teens
All too quickly, adults forget what it was like when we were teens. So we have lots of teens who keep issues to themselves and end up making mistakes that could have been avoided if only we chose to remember what it was like when we were teens and provided the support they need. So…
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The One Thing You Should ALWAYS Be!
Before I tell you about the one thing you should ALWAYS be, let me share some insight into my journey with you. I always thought I would be a writer but I sometimes don’t know where people get the time to do everything they want to. The still and calm of this year may bring…
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What is the big deal about the girl child and her rights anyway?
What is the big deal about the girl child and her rights anyway? I am glad you asked. Let me share the story of a particular girl child. At two she was separated from her parents, especially her mom. Does she not deserve a loving home and care? Or the role model of a loving…
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It’s Mental Illness Awareness Week
Starting tomorrow (Sunday October 4th-10th, 2020) is Mental Illness Awareness Week. The week culminates into the World Mental Health Day I could not think of a better time to upload the Instagram live chat I had with Dr. Temitayo Aboaba, who is a Geriatric Psychiatrist. In this video we: debunked some myths around mental health,…
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Undoing the Culture of Silence Series- with Jane Ugwumadu
In August, we started an Instagram live series called “undoing the culture of silence”. Our first guest was Jane Ugwumadu, Director of Save a Child Mission. Save a Child Mission (SACM) exists to protect the rights of vulnerable child, and children in poverty-stricken areas. They do this by “empowering adults with ‘how to’ information and…
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Tribute to My Husband- sneak peak into our story
The school semester had just ended, it was exciting for me. I was looking forward to my scheduled trip to Abuja, I was super pumped and not ready to waste a single day. I will be meeting this hottie I was head over heels in love with. Or so I thought. Tade (not real name)…
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No Daddy, I am not Ready!!!
It was the year 2003, December 1st was fast approaching, my daddy had promised to buy me Christmas outfit this year, and the hunt starts by December 1st. There was a two-year ban on buying new clothes for me because my Dad thought I was getting too ‘boogie’. I needed to learn how to be…