Tag: loudsilences
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WHAT TO DO IF YOU FIND OUT YOUR CHILD IS ENGAGED IN PORNOGRAPHY AND MASTURBATION!
Did I hear you say God forbid! I say AMEN! But sadly, some kids are unfortunately trapped in porn and masturbation. Many of them are crying out to us for help. Maybe they came out to you on their own or perhaps you caught them in the act. What then do you do? I know…
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Welcome to 2023- Why LoudSilences?
Welcome to 2023! I hope you are off to a great start of the new year. In loudsilences.org, we are excited. On February 18, 2023, LoudSilences is going to be THREE years old! Yes, you heard that right. The very first post went out on this day in 2020- Welcome to LoudSilences- Turn it Up!…
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You Are An Orphan And So What?!
Anita, you are an orphan, so what?! Believe it or not, it was a question I asked myself one day while I was feeling sorry for myself. Boy in those days, I threw the best pity parties for myself. And I would excuse all my bad behaviours on this ground- I am an orphan. Until…
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Dear Anita…..
Dear Anita, My heart is heavy. I know I need to talk to someone but unsure who. God is the obvious answer and prayer is the key, true! But the truth is, I cannot talk to God because I feel so dirty and disgusted with myself. How could I still be bound in pornography and…
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Have You Heard About The Mirabal Sisters?
Have you heard about the Mirabal Sisters? If you have, great! Not? Well, today you will hear about them. Let’s try this! Ever heard of “International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women”? Again, great if you have. And if not, again, you will hear about them. Well, what does the Mirabal sisters and…
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HOW TO SUPPORT SUICIDE LOSS SURVIVORS
It is very important we share with you, how to support suicide loss survivors. Who is a suicide loss survivor? But first, quick share from Anita! I used to be suicidal, VERY suicidal. One of my first write-ups on loudsilences was on ‘the day I died’. After I made the switch from depression and suicide…
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ISSUES MEN FACE THAT THEY DON’T TALK ABOUT
There are lots of issues men face that they don’t talk about, and it all starts with this- “Be a man.”! But what exactly does it mean to be a man? Society has set standards for how men should behave and respond in certain situations. Many of these standards are based on misguided arguments about…
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3 WAYS KINDNESS MAKES YOU HAPPIER
Anyone who has willingly visited an orphanage to give to the fatherless or has given to another worthy cause will probably tell you that they felt a sense of happiness doing what they did. People struggle with being kind, so we want to offer 3 ways kindness makes you happier. That’s just the way it…
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Undoing the Culture of Silence: Organizations at Work- TGIF
When it comes to undoing the culture of silence, there are organizations making great strides, and The Goodness Impact Foundation (TGIF) is one of them. In this blog, we decided to put a spotlight on organizations that have shown commitment to issues around gender-based violence, mental health, women and youth empowerment. The purpose is to…
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7 SIMPLE WAYS TO CARE FOR YOUR MENTAL HEALTH
People hear the word mental health and they want to hide. But mental health is simply part of your health and caring for it is simple. So we want to share 7 simple ways to care for your mental health. The thing about these is that they are so simple, they often get overlooked. This…
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5 THINGS THAT IMPACT THE MENTAL HEALTH OF A GIRL CHILD
Today, we will talk about 5 things that impact the mental health of a girl child! The month of October holds both world mental health and international day of the girl child. We thought it made sense to marry both topics into one. Sometimes, we see our child change behaviours and it feels like they…
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THE 4-STEP PROCESS FOR HEALING FROM SEXUAL ABUSE TRAUMA
Are you confused about how you can heal from the trauma of a sexual abuse experience? If I had to pick THE 4-step process for healing from sexual abuse trauma, from among many others, these would be IT. Healing from sexual abuse and assault trauma can be painful and take a lot of time. But…
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3 THINGS NEVER TO SAY TO SOME WHO IS DEPRESSED
I know the word ‘Depression’ is scary to so many of us, that we would rather not ‘deal’. Sometimes, we try to help, but the wrong words comes out. So in today’s write-up, we want to share with you 3 things never to say to someone who is depressed. But first… ….What is Depression? The…
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THE MAIN CAUSE OF SEXUAL VICES & MISBEHAVIOURS
Ever wondered what the main cause of sexual vices and misbehaviours are? Sit tight, I’m about to share with you my true life experience. When I was a kid, there was a popular TV drama I loved watching; Super Story. It was a family TV drama that most Nigerian families looked forward to on Thursday…
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Dear Younger Me…
Dear younger me, I just want to let you know that we turned out okay! Last week I got this picture of my younger self from a cousin, I must have been eight years old. What do you think I did first, looking at this picture? I looked long and hard at this picture, and…
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MY FAMILY’S BEST KEPT SECRET
Every family has secrets. I am sure many would agree with me. But would you share yours with me? Some say I spilled my family’s best secret in my new book. But did I? “Seriously, Anita, how can I have a husband who is ‘touching’ my child and I would say or do nothing about…
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“Why Now?” Answering the Question of Why Sexual Violence Survivors ‘Stay Silent’
As I resume writing again on loudislences.org, I was thinking about what people might feel about my ‘silence’ for the last couple months on this platform. While this was due to some life-evalution I was undertaking, I could not help but feel like I owed my readers an explanation. But it was not the first…
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“Woman, Thou Art Loosed”
“Woman, Thou Art Loosed”! It is a book title authored by Bishop T. D. Jakes. There is a movie on the title as well. I have read the book and seen the movie. You should see it or read it. Thank me later. *wink* DISCLAIMER- many men will see ‘WOMAN’ and be like this is…
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Excuse Me, What is your Excuse?
“Bimpe, Bimpe, Bimpe! How many times did I call you? This life you want to live will not benefit you one bit. Change!”. Mrs. Daniels was trying to advice Bimpe about not ‘selling herself cheaply to me’. “Excuse Me, what is your excuse this time?” Bimpe fired back. “What did you say?” Mrs. Daniels asked.…