Tag: no more silence
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STRANGER DANGER: UNDERSTANDING THE REALITY
As children, we were often taught to be wary of strangers. We were taught to avoid talking to them, accepting gifts or rides from them, and to seek help from trusted adults if we ever felt unsafe. But how much of the “stranger danger” concept is actually based on reality? […]
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THE SIGNIFICANCE OF CAUTION IN SOCIAL MEDIA
Lately, I’ve been scrolling through Instagram excessively. I realized that I’ve been using it as a distraction, but unfortunately, this habit has led to feelings of inadequacy and dissatisfaction. I found myself constantly comparing my life to the ‘seemingly perfect’ lives of influencers. Just like I put myself under undue pressure over the […]
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CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY: HOW I MOVED ON FROM TRAUMA
Key Word – CHOOSE to be happy. Many people think that trauma marks you for life. Well, sorry but trauma does not mean your life ends and all hope is lost. This was what I realized and knew I would choose to be happy and move on from all my traumatic experiences. For those who…
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DOES GOD HATE WOMEN?
Does God HATE Women? That was a thought I honestly had walking away from a conversation I had years back. “How can you be so intelligent and say you believe in the ‘Christian God?’ said this random guy who had approached me to preach gnosticism to me. “Any of the Abrahamic religions marginalizes women”- he…
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THE MANY FACES OF BULLYING – BREAK THE CHAIN
When we think about bullying, we only think of kids on a playground. But if I told you the chain of bullying is longer than kids on a playground? Yes, there are many faces of bullying and the story of Jade and Tony, gives us insight into how far back that chain can go, or…
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HOW MANY PEOPLE UNKNOWINGLY FALL INTO PORNOGRAPHY AND MASTURBATION
What if I told you that you could be into pornography and masturbation without realizing it? I know that sounds crazy!, but stay with me on this true story. It reminds me of how many people unknowingly fall into pornography and masturbation. Read and search yourself! In my penultimate year in high school, or secondary…
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Dear Anita…..
Dear Anita, My heart is heavy. I know I need to talk to someone but unsure who. God is the obvious answer and prayer is the key, true! But the truth is, I cannot talk to God because I feel so dirty and disgusted with myself. How could I still be bound in pornography and…
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HOW TO SUPPORT SUICIDE LOSS SURVIVORS
It is very important we share with you, how to support suicide loss survivors. Who is a suicide loss survivor? But first, quick share from Anita! I used to be suicidal, VERY suicidal. One of my first write-ups on loudsilences was on ‘the day I died’. After I made the switch from depression and suicide…
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THE 4-STEP PROCESS FOR HEALING FROM SEXUAL ABUSE TRAUMA
Are you confused about how you can heal from the trauma of a sexual abuse experience? If I had to pick THE 4-step process for healing from sexual abuse trauma, from among many others, these would be IT. Healing from sexual abuse and assault trauma can be painful and take a lot of time. But…
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Dear Younger Me…
Dear younger me, I just want to let you know that we turned out okay! Last week I got this picture of my younger self from a cousin, I must have been eight years old. What do you think I did first, looking at this picture? I looked long and hard at this picture, and…
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DANGERS OF DEALING WITH SEXUAL ABUSE TRAUMA IN SILENCE
IT’S no secret that sexual abuse usually causes trauma in its victims. And there are dangers in dealing with sexual abuse trauma in silence and alone. Sexual abuse victims have to deal with painful, and sometimes, conflicted feelings during and after the abuse. At a point like this, they need help from a family member, a…
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MY FAMILY’S BEST KEPT SECRET
Every family has secrets. I am sure many would agree with me. But would you share yours with me? Some say I spilled my family’s best secret in my new book. But did I? “Seriously, Anita, how can I have a husband who is ‘touching’ my child and I would say or do nothing about…
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“Why Now?” Answering the Question of Why Sexual Violence Survivors ‘Stay Silent’
As I resume writing again on loudislences.org, I was thinking about what people might feel about my ‘silence’ for the last couple months on this platform. While this was due to some life-evalution I was undertaking, I could not help but feel like I owed my readers an explanation. But it was not the first…
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Excuse Me, What is your Excuse?
“Bimpe, Bimpe, Bimpe! How many times did I call you? This life you want to live will not benefit you one bit. Change!”. Mrs. Daniels was trying to advice Bimpe about not ‘selling herself cheaply to me’. “Excuse Me, what is your excuse this time?” Bimpe fired back. “What did you say?” Mrs. Daniels asked.…