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The Man Who Couldn’t Ask for Help
It’s another day. Another day Tunde feels empty and wasteless. How can I ask for help? I want to ask for help, but I know that I can’t do that. I’m a man. I shouldn’t feel all these useless emotions. What will my parents think of me? What will the world think of me? In […]
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Is the boy child at risk? Nurturing the 21st Century Boy Child
Is the boy child at risk? Have you ever wondered (like me), what nurturing the 21st century boy child means for the boy child and the kind of parenting style to support that? Yesterday was international day of the boy child and while we really should have these conversations everyday, let us hone in a […]
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HOW TO TALK TO YOUR TEEN ABOUT THEIR MENTAL HEALTH
Parents and guardians, how do you talk to your teen about their mental health? Better question is do you talk to them about their mental health? Below is a story about how Wuraola has been having trouble dealing with her mental health. So, she decides to seek comfort from her parents. “Mom and Dad, I […]
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BLOG HIGHLIGHTS FROM APRIL 2023
Did you know that April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month? So, here are some blog highlights for you! This month, we discussed some interesting topics pertaining to sexual assault. Although you may or may have not experienced it, sexual assault is a menace that concerns everyone one of us. Sexual assault not only devastates the […]
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STRANGER DANGER: UNDERSTANDING THE REALITY
As children, we were often taught to be wary of strangers. We were taught to avoid talking to them, accepting gifts or rides from them, and to seek help from trusted adults if we ever felt unsafe. But how much of the “stranger danger” concept is actually based on reality? […]
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DOES HAVING SEX COME WITH CONSEQUENCES?
Believing Sex Comes Without Consequences – Excerpt from Guys are Waffles, Girls are Spaghetti Below is an excerpt from a book I read with teenagers a while back- “Guys are Waffles, Girls are Spaghetti”. The chapter highlights how young people act when they believe sex comes without consequences, this excerpt focuses on the girls. If […]
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CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY: HOW I MOVED ON FROM TRAUMA
Key Word – CHOOSE to be happy. Many people think that trauma marks you for life. Well, sorry but trauma does not mean your life ends and all hope is lost. This was what I realized and knew I would choose to be happy and move on from all my traumatic experiences. For those who might be here for the first time […]
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BUILDING WORK-LIFE BALANCE: A QUICK GUIDE
I was very excited when I got my first freelance client, and boy, I couldn’t wait to start taking on bigger clients. The clients didn’t come in droves like I had wished they would, but as I started to take on […]
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DOES GOD HATE WOMEN?
Does God HATE Women? That was a thought I honestly had walking away from a conversation I had years back. “How can you be so intelligent and say you believe in the ‘Christian God?’ said this random guy who had approached me to preach gnosticism to me. “Any of the Abrahamic religions marginalizes women”- he […]
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ARE YOUR PARENTS AFFECTING YOUR SELF-ESTEEM?
If you are wondering how your parents could be affecting your self-esteem, you are in for a ride. Stay with us. Growing up, I was the socially awkward type who avoided public attention. Despite this, I was even more awkward and uncomfortable with my parents. I’d rather be embarrassed publicly than be embarrassed in front […]
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WHY DO PEOPLE PRACTICE FEMALE GENITAL MUTILATION (FGM)?
Did you know that February 6th was the International Day of Zero Tolerance to Female Genital Mutilation? If you’re wondering why do people would practice Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) in the first place, you are not alone. I mean what kind of people practice it anyways? Sadly, Female Genital Mutilation is still a thing. The […]
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Dear Anita….I was raped on Valentine’s Day
Dear Anita, I was raped on Valentine’s day and it hurts! A day that was supposed to be about love quickly turned to hate for me. I hate him! And I hate myself! How do I live with this? This is the story of a survivor. It holds a lot of lesson and insights (summarized […]
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HOW MANY PEOPLE UNKNOWINGLY FALL INTO PORNOGRAPHY AND MASTURBATION
What if I told you that you could be into pornography and masturbation without realizing it? I know that sounds crazy!, but stay with me on this true story. It reminds me of how many people unknowingly fall into pornography and masturbation. Read and search yourself! In my penultimate year in high school, or secondary […]
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WHAT TO DO IF YOU FIND OUT YOUR CHILD IS ENGAGED IN PORNOGRAPHY AND MASTURBATION!
Did I hear you say God forbid! I say AMEN! But sadly, some kids are unfortunately trapped in porn and masturbation. Many of them are crying out to us for help. Maybe they came out to you on their own or perhaps you caught them in the act. What then do you do? I know […]
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Welcome to 2023- Why LoudSilences?
Welcome to 2023! I hope you are off to a great start of the new year. In loudsilences.org, we are excited. On February 18, 2023, LoudSilences is going to be THREE years old! Yes, you heard that right. The very first post went out on this day in 2020- Welcome to LoudSilences- Turn it Up! […]
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You Are An Orphan And So What?!
Anita, you are an orphan, so what?! Believe it or not, it was a question I asked myself one day while I was feeling sorry for myself. Boy in those days, I threw the best pity parties for myself. And I would excuse all my bad behaviours on this ground- I am an orphan. Until […]
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Dear Anita…..
Dear Anita, My heart is heavy. I know I need to talk to someone but unsure who. God is the obvious answer and prayer is the key, true! But the truth is, I cannot talk to God because I feel so dirty and disgusted with myself. How could I still be bound in pornography and […]
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Have You Heard About The Mirabal Sisters?
Have you heard about the Mirabal Sisters? If you have, great! Not? Well, today you will hear about them. Let’s try this! Ever heard of “International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women”? Again, great if you have. And if not, again, you will hear about them. Well, what does the Mirabal sisters and […]
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HOW TO SUPPORT SUICIDE LOSS SURVIVORS
It is very important we share with you, how to support suicide loss survivors. Who is a suicide loss survivor? But first, quick share from Anita! I used to be suicidal, VERY suicidal. One of my first write-ups on loudsilences was on ‘the day I died’. After I made the switch from depression and suicide […]
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ISSUES MEN FACE THAT THEY DON’T TALK ABOUT
There are lots of issues men face that they don’t talk about, and it all starts with this- “Be a man.”! But what exactly does it mean to be a man? Society has set standards for how men should behave and respond in certain situations. Many of these standards are based on misguided arguments about […]
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Undoing the Culture of Silence: Organizations at Work- TGIF
When it comes to undoing the culture of silence, there are organizations making great strides, and The Goodness Impact Foundation (TGIF) is one of them. In this blog, we decided to put a spotlight on organizations that have shown commitment to issues around gender-based violence, mental health, women and youth empowerment. The purpose is to […]
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THE 4-STEP PROCESS FOR HEALING FROM SEXUAL ABUSE TRAUMA
Are you confused about how you can heal from the trauma of a sexual abuse experience? If I had to pick THE 4-step process for healing from sexual abuse trauma, from among many others, these would be IT. Healing from sexual abuse and assault trauma can be painful and take a lot of time. But […]
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THE MAIN CAUSE OF SEXUAL VICES & MISBEHAVIOURS
Ever wondered what the main cause of sexual vices and misbehaviours are? Sit tight, I’m about to share with you my true life experience. When I was a kid, there was a popular TV drama I loved watching; Super Story. It was a family TV drama that most Nigerian families looked forward to on Thursday […]
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DANGERS OF DEALING WITH SEXUAL ABUSE TRAUMA IN SILENCE
IT’S no secret that sexual abuse usually causes trauma in its victims. And there are dangers in dealing with sexual abuse trauma in silence and alone. Sexual abuse victims have to deal with painful, and sometimes, conflicted feelings during and after the abuse. At a point like this, they need help from a family member, a […]