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THE 4-STEP PROCESS FOR HEALING FROM SEXUAL ABUSE TRAUMA

Are you confused about how you can heal from the trauma of a sexual abuse experience? If I had to pick THE 4-step process for healing from sexual abuse trauma, from among many others, these would be IT. Healing from sexual abuse and assault trauma can be painful and take a lot of time. But …

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3 things never to say to someone who is depressed

3 THINGS NEVER TO SAY TO SOME WHO IS DEPRESSED

I know the word ‘Depression’ is scary to so many of us, that we would rather not ‘deal’. Sometimes, we try to help, but the wrong words comes out. So in today’s write-up, we want to share with you 3 things never to say to someone who is depressed. But first… ….What is Depression? The …

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THE MAIN CAUSE OF SEXUAL VICES & MISBEHAVIOURS

THE MAIN CAUSE OF SEXUAL VICES & MISBEHAVIOURS

Ever wondered what the main cause of sexual vices and misbehaviours are? Sit tight, I’m about to share with you my true life experience. When I was a kid, there was a popular TV drama I loved watching; Super Story. It was a family TV drama that most Nigerian families looked forward to on Thursday …

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Dear Younger Me…

Dear younger me, I just want to let you know that we turned out okay! Last week I got this picture of my younger self from a cousin, I must have been eight years old. What do you think I did first, looking at this picture? I looked long and hard at this picture, and …

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8 DANGERS OF DEALING WITH SEXUAL ABUSE TRAUMA IN SILENCE

IT’S no secret that sexual abuse usually causes trauma in its victims. And there are dangers in dealing with sexual abuse trauma in silence and alone. Sexual abuse victims have to deal with painful, and sometimes, conflicted feelings during and after the abuse. At a point like this, they need help from a family member, a …

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MY FAMILY’S BEST KEPT SECRET

Every family has secrets. I am sure many would agree with me. But would you share yours with me? Some say I spilled my family’s best secret in my new book. But did I? “Seriously, Anita, how can I have a husband who is ‘touching’ my child and I would say or do nothing about …

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Why sexual violence survivors stay silent

“Why Now?” Answering the Question of Why Sexual Violence Survivors ‘Stay Silent’

As I resume writing again on loudislences.org, I was thinking about what people might feel about my ‘silence’ for the last couple months on this platform. While this was due to some life-evalution I was undertaking, I could not help but feel like I owed my readers an explanation.  But it was not the first …

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Silence is Consent! Do you Consent?

“Silence is consent! Why didn’t you say anything? You wanted it, just admit it”. Those were the words that kept swirling around in Made’s head as she clutched her purse and her shoes in one hand, while squeezing together parts of her clothes as if they would cover the imaginary nakedness she felt. Although most …

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managing triggers

How to Manage Your Triggers

Anyone who has been through any type of trauma may have experienced or will experience ‘being triggered’. But I have come to learn that not everyone knows how to manage these triggers when they occur, more so being proactive about it. In my last post, I wrote about understanding triggers, now let us learn how …

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understanding triggers- what is trigger?

Understanding Triggers

Would you agree that a problem you don’t understand you cannot effectively deal with? Same holds true for understanding triggers. As someone who experienced trauma, I had a lot of triggers. On my parents’ birthday or death anniversaries, I used to get depressed. Or when I spoke to certain people from my past, I would …

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