Category: Blog
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Is the boy child at risk? Nurturing the 21st Century Boy Child
Is the boy child at risk? Have you ever wondered (like me), what nurturing the 21st century boy child means for the boy child and the kind of parenting style to support that? Yesterday was international day of the boy child and while we really should have these conversations everyday, let us hone in a…
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HOW TO TALK TO YOUR TEEN ABOUT THEIR MENTAL HEALTH
Parents and guardians, how do you talk to your teen about their mental health? Better question is do you talk to them about their mental health? Below is a story about how Wuraola has been having trouble dealing with her mental health. So, she decides to seek comfort from her parents. “Mom and Dad, I…
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WHY WE NEED TO TALK ABOUT MENTAL HEALTH
May is Mental Health Awareness Month, so let’s talk about mental health. “Mental health is defined as a person’s state of being concerning psychological and emotional well-being.” What makes your mental health so important is that it can affect all other aspects of your life. It impacts how you perceive situations and how you act…
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BLOG HIGHLIGHTS FROM APRIL 2023
Did you know that April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month? So, here are some blog highlights for you! This month, we discussed some interesting topics pertaining to sexual assault. Although you may or may have not experienced it, sexual assault is a menace that concerns everyone one of us. Sexual assault not only devastates the…
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STRANGER DANGER: UNDERSTANDING THE REALITY
As children, we were often taught to be wary of strangers. We were taught to avoid talking to them, accepting gifts or rides from them, and to seek help from trusted adults if we ever felt unsafe. But how much of the “stranger danger” concept is actually based on reality? […]
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DOES HAVING SEX COME WITH CONSEQUENCES?
Believing Sex Comes Without Consequences – Excerpt from Guys are Waffles, Girls are Spaghetti Below is an excerpt from a book I read with teenagers a while back- “Guys are Waffles, Girls are Spaghetti”. The chapter highlights how young people act when they believe sex comes without consequences, this excerpt focuses on the girls. If…
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Dear Anita…I was almost Raped by my Parish Priest
I was picked as the leader of a group in my church ( parish level) called HCA Holy Childhood Association. All leaders from different parishes meet once a month. So he( the priest ) who is mobile, would pick some of us who can’t afford transportation to the venue. That’s how I got to know…
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THE SIGNIFICANCE OF CAUTION IN SOCIAL MEDIA
Lately, I’ve been scrolling through Instagram excessively. I realized that I’ve been using it as a distraction, but unfortunately, this habit has led to feelings of inadequacy and dissatisfaction. I found myself constantly comparing my life to the ‘seemingly perfect’ lives of influencers. Just like I put myself under undue pressure over the […]
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CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY: HOW I MOVED ON FROM TRAUMA
Key Word – CHOOSE to be happy. Many people think that trauma marks you for life. Well, sorry but trauma does not mean your life ends and all hope is lost. This was what I realized and knew I would choose to be happy and move on from all my traumatic experiences. For those who…
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BUILDING WORK-LIFE BALANCE: A QUICK GUIDE
I was very excited when I got my first freelance client, and boy, I couldn’t wait to start taking on bigger clients. The clients didn’t come in droves like I had wished they would, but as I started to take on […]
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DOES GOD HATE WOMEN?
Does God HATE Women? That was a thought I honestly had walking away from a conversation I had years back. “How can you be so intelligent and say you believe in the ‘Christian God?’ said this random guy who had approached me to preach gnosticism to me. “Any of the Abrahamic religions marginalizes women”- he…
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ARE YOUR PARENTS AFFECTING YOUR SELF-ESTEEM?
If you are wondering how your parents could be affecting your self-esteem, you are in for a ride. Stay with us. Growing up, I was the socially awkward type who avoided public attention. Despite this, I was even more awkward and uncomfortable with my parents. I’d rather be embarrassed publicly than be embarrassed in front…
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THE MANY FACES OF BULLYING – BREAK THE CHAIN
When we think about bullying, we only think of kids on a playground. But if I told you the chain of bullying is longer than kids on a playground? Yes, there are many faces of bullying and the story of Jade and Tony, gives us insight into how far back that chain can go, or…
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WHY DO PEOPLE PRACTICE FEMALE GENITAL MUTILATION (FGM)?
Did you know that February 6th was the International Day of Zero Tolerance to Female Genital Mutilation? If you’re wondering why do people would practice Female Genital Mutilation (FGM) in the first place, you are not alone. I mean what kind of people practice it anyways? Sadly, Female Genital Mutilation is still a thing. The…
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Dear Anita….I was raped on Valentine’s Day
Dear Anita, I was raped on Valentine’s day and it hurts! A day that was supposed to be about love quickly turned to hate for me. I hate him! And I hate myself! How do I live with this? This is the story of a survivor. It holds a lot of lesson and insights (summarized…
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HOW MANY PEOPLE UNKNOWINGLY FALL INTO PORNOGRAPHY AND MASTURBATION
What if I told you that you could be into pornography and masturbation without realizing it? I know that sounds crazy!, but stay with me on this true story. It reminds me of how many people unknowingly fall into pornography and masturbation. Read and search yourself! In my penultimate year in high school, or secondary…
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WHAT TO DO IF YOU FIND OUT YOUR CHILD IS ENGAGED IN PORNOGRAPHY AND MASTURBATION!
Did I hear you say God forbid! I say AMEN! But sadly, some kids are unfortunately trapped in porn and masturbation. Many of them are crying out to us for help. Maybe they came out to you on their own or perhaps you caught them in the act. What then do you do? I know…
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Welcome to 2023- Why LoudSilences?
Welcome to 2023! I hope you are off to a great start of the new year. In loudsilences.org, we are excited. On February 18, 2023, LoudSilences is going to be THREE years old! Yes, you heard that right. The very first post went out on this day in 2020- Welcome to LoudSilences- Turn it Up!…
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You Are An Orphan And So What?!
Anita, you are an orphan, so what?! Believe it or not, it was a question I asked myself one day while I was feeling sorry for myself. Boy in those days, I threw the best pity parties for myself. And I would excuse all my bad behaviours on this ground- I am an orphan. Until…
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Dear Anita…..
Dear Anita, My heart is heavy. I know I need to talk to someone but unsure who. God is the obvious answer and prayer is the key, true! But the truth is, I cannot talk to God because I feel so dirty and disgusted with myself. How could I still be bound in pornography and…