Category: Blog
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How to Manage Your Triggers
Anyone who has been through any type of trauma may have experienced or will experience ‘being triggered’. But I have come to learn that not everyone knows how to manage these triggers when they occur, more so being proactive about it. In my last post, I wrote about understanding triggers, now let us learn how…
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Understanding Triggers
Would you agree that a problem you don’t understand you cannot effectively deal with? Same holds true for understanding triggers. As someone who experienced trauma, I had a lot of triggers. On my parents’ birthday or death anniversaries, I used to get depressed. Or when I spoke to certain people from my past, I would…
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“Woman, Thou Art Loosed”
“Woman, Thou Art Loosed”! It is a book title authored by Bishop T. D. Jakes. There is a movie on the title as well. I have read the book and seen the movie. You should see it or read it. Thank me later. *wink* DISCLAIMER- many men will see ‘WOMAN’ and be like this is…
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Excuse Me, What is your Excuse?
“Bimpe, Bimpe, Bimpe! How many times did I call you? This life you want to live will not benefit you one bit. Change!”. Mrs. Daniels was trying to advice Bimpe about not ‘selling herself cheaply to me’. “Excuse Me, what is your excuse this time?” Bimpe fired back. “What did you say?” Mrs. Daniels asked.…
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When We Were Teens
All too quickly, adults forget what it was like when we were teens. So we have lots of teens who keep issues to themselves and end up making mistakes that could have been avoided if only we chose to remember what it was like when we were teens and provided the support they need. So…
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The One Thing You Should ALWAYS Be!
Before I tell you about the one thing you should ALWAYS be, let me share some insight into my journey with you. I always thought I would be a writer but I sometimes don’t know where people get the time to do everything they want to. The still and calm of this year may bring…
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What is the big deal about the girl child and her rights anyway?
What is the big deal about the girl child and her rights anyway? I am glad you asked. Let me share the story of a particular girl child. At two she was separated from her parents, especially her mom. Does she not deserve a loving home and care? Or the role model of a loving…
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It’s Mental Illness Awareness Week
Starting tomorrow (Sunday October 4th-10th, 2020) is Mental Illness Awareness Week. The week culminates into the World Mental Health Day I could not think of a better time to upload the Instagram live chat I had with Dr. Temitayo Aboaba, who is a Geriatric Psychiatrist. In this video we: debunked some myths around mental health,…
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Undoing the Culture of Silence Series- with Jane Ugwumadu
In August, we started an Instagram live series called “undoing the culture of silence”. Our first guest was Jane Ugwumadu, Director of Save a Child Mission. Save a Child Mission (SACM) exists to protect the rights of vulnerable child, and children in poverty-stricken areas. They do this by “empowering adults with ‘how to’ information and…
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Tribute to My Husband- sneak peak into our story
The school semester had just ended, it was exciting for me. I was looking forward to my scheduled trip to Abuja, I was super pumped and not ready to waste a single day. I will be meeting this hottie I was head over heels in love with. Or so I thought. Tade (not real name)…
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No Daddy, I am not Ready!!!
It was the year 2003, December 1st was fast approaching, my daddy had promised to buy me Christmas outfit this year, and the hunt starts by December 1st. There was a two-year ban on buying new clothes for me because my Dad thought I was getting too ‘boogie’. I needed to learn how to be…
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Why you should know about the mental health spectrum
“Ignorance is bliss”. Ever heard that before? I bet you have. But is it really? Food for thought- for you, not me! Get thinking after reading this. You ever heard of the mental health spectrum? If you have, give yourself a pat on the back, welcome to the elite club! If not, then now you…
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Guilty Mom-Wife
‘Guilty mom-wife’, those were the words Jane’s friend said to her when she tried so hard to make her feel bad for being a career woman. guilty-mom-wife-what would you say to Jane? What would you say to Jane, as those words plagued at her heart? Is she really a guilty mom-wife who denies her husband…
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What if you could take a peek into the Future….
The Adult Life of A Sexually Abused Child What if you could take a peek into the future to see what the adult life of a sexually abused child look like? Well you can. But today I will not be sharing my story. I will be sharing someone else’s. You know yourself and I want…
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From Suicide to Purpose: The Day I ‘Died’
Going from suicide to purpose on the day I ‘died’, I found life. I had just been stood up by my boyfriend at the time. He said he was too sick to go to class to read, I offered to cook him something and send to his room, he declined. I had exams in two…
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Here Are 5 Things YOU Can Do To End Rape Culture
There a number of things YOU can do to end rape culture. Yes YOU (male, female, mother, father, single, married, teenager, young adult, student, worker etc.). Today, we will focus on 5 things YOU can do to end rape culture. To change anything systemic, including rape culture, you have to apply systemic strategies to dealing…
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CSA – Meaning, Signs & Effects
In my last post on CSA & Your Child I promised to help us understand what CSA means. In this post, we will explore the meaning, signs and effects of CSA. What is CSA? It is an acronym that stands for Child Sexual Abuse, and in plain English, it would mean ‘abusing a child sexually,…
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Scars: She is They!
Your Scars are Perfect!
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Welcome to LoudSilences- Turn it Up!
My name is Ann Adefuye, a.k.a Anita (nee Young-Itiye). I am Nigerian (soon to also be Canadian). I am from the Kalabari tribe (Rivers State) in the South-South Region of Nigeria. I also regard myself as Yoruba- by marriage. I have three great passions that will be driven through this platform- teenagers & young adults,…