Ever wondered what the main cause of sexual vices and misbehaviours are? Sit tight, I’m about to share with you my true life experience.
When I was a kid, there was a popular TV drama I loved watching; Super Story.
It was a family TV drama that most Nigerian families looked forward to on Thursday nights.
Super Story was a series with several episodes which would run for months ended, a new Super Story series with a new plot and characters would be released. It was focused on depicting vices and wrong-doings in families, groups and the society at large.
When I was 8, I watched a Super Story series that would change my life forever.
It was titled Itohan, and it was the story of a young girl who, along with some other girls, got tricked into travelling abroad illegally by a Groupon of sex traffickers.
Contrary to the traffickers’ promises of getting her a job abroad, she was threatened into becoming a prostitute for the sex traffickers. Although I can’t remember how it ended, I do remember that there were no PG-rated scenes.
But from that point, I stopped learning the lessons that Super Story was trying to teach us. All I could think about was what it was like to be one of those girls. I was curious, and a little excited about everything.
At that time, there was a form of mass movement against human trafficking and a lot of programmes based on human trafficking were aired on TV.
Rather than cringe as I watched yet another interview of females who had been victims of sex trafficking, all I could think of was what it would be like if I was one of those girls.
From then, I started imagining scenarios like these, and before I knew it, my child’s mind became clogged with dirty thoughts.
Then, I didn’t realize that when you think about something a lot, it becomes more likely to happen. Some years later, I was sexually harassed by an acquaintance. And it happened again with someone else. But I didn’t even resist, or tell anyone about it.
THOUGHTS ARE THE BASIS OF EVERY SEXUAL VICE
Although there’s no solid way to explain that odd turnout of events, one thing is apparent. Thoughts are a very powerful starting force for sexual misbehavior, abuse and harassment.
All of those movements and programmes were initiated to raise awareness and curb sex trafficking. But messages like this don’t always hit the right spot.
The vices we see or hear about can trigger all manner of thoughts in our heads. It can be worse with kids, who are less likely to watch their chain of thoughts. We all need to watch out for this.
WHY YOU NEED TO PROTECT YOUR MIND FROM HAVING WRONG THOUGHTS
The young boy who harasses an underage girl did it probably because he saw someone else do it, and that sparked a thought. A wrong thought.
It works vice versa too, as you have read in the above story.
“You can’t do anything that you can’t picture yourself doing. Once you make the picturing process conscious and deliberate, you begin to create the self you want to be.”Anonymous
And this is why it is crucial that you protect your mind from from wrong sexual thoughts.
Here are 5 ways to restrict your mind from thinking wrongly about sex;
5 WAYS TO GET RID OF WRONG SEXUAL THOUGHTS
1. Replace it with a healthy thought that makes you smile
When you’re in a situation where something you see or hear about something triggers wrong thoughts, you simply can’t ‘unsee’ it or shut down your mind. Best thing at this point is to QUICKLY replace the bad thought with a healthy thought that makes you smile.
Thinking about something pleasant that you look forward can help you take your mind off wrong thoughts.
2. Remember that it is potentially dangerous
Mistakes happen, yes! But when you realize your bad thoughts, you have a choice- continue or put a stop to it! If you continue, it is no longer a mistake, but a CHOICE that could cause problems for you in the future. Reminding yourself about this can go a long way to keep your thoughts in check.
3. Avoid Triggers
Noticed bad thoughts creep up in your mind when in a particular situation or with a person? Avoid such persons and situations. You also want to be cautious with social media and other forms of visual entertainment like TV, magazines, etc.
Being cautious means that you view them with a ‘cap’ on your thoughts; you don’t let your thoughts win.
4. Question your intent
Most times, when our minds wander around sexual thoughts, we aren’t really looking for sex. More often than not, we are trying to replace something that we feel is missing in our lives or our relationships. And it could also be that we are looking for a distraction from a difficult situation.
These factors will be specific to your experiences. So, take some time to figure out the root issue and work on correcting it.
5. Pray consistently
Praying is the act of communicating your thoughts, worries, hopes and dreams to God. Tell God about the wrong thoughts (and desires) that you’re having and ask Him for help. He created you, He knows you and He can deliver you from any kind of situation. Just trust Him, and let Him guide you.
Whatever we plant in our subconscious mind and nourish repetitively usually becomes a reality. If you’re having wrong thoughts, try as hard as you can to get rid of them. Or if you know someone who is, do your best to help them.
And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.Philippians 4:8 – Biblegateway