Tag: sexual violence
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What It Is to Forgive
It’s a cycle. Over and over again. I can’t seem to get past it. Just a single step forward takes me ten steps back. I thought I was better. I thought I felt better. But little did I know what was truly holding me back was my willingness to not forgive. It’s one of the…
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Sometimes, Saying “It Will Get Better” Doesn’t Cut It
I hate being vulnerable. And the times that I have been vulnerable to people, out of many of the words they have said to me, the one phrase I struggled to reconcile with was, “It will get better.” Of course, I understand they have no ill intention for saying that, but even though I would…
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16 Ways to Protect the Rights of Women and Girls
Do you think we can actually find 16 ways to protect the rights of women and girls? The countdown to #16days of Activism Against Gender-Based Violence campaign kicked off on November 25, International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women. This campaign is designed to raise awareness about gender-based violence. This post is pretty…
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A Journey to Healing
Usually, when something unfortunate happens to someone, they must go through healing to come out a better person. For example, when an injury occurs to any part of your body, you feel the pain and desperately wish it would go away. But with time and proper treatment of the injury, your wound begins its journey…
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ARISE: It’s Time to Get Up
What a peculiar way to title a blog, don’t you think? So, last weekend, my church just celebrated her 11th-year anniversary. We held a celebration by holding a two-day power conference, and the theme was ‘ARISE.” You’d be surprised how many times I have heard the word, ARISE, this year. Let me give you a…
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WHY A CHILD MAY STAY SILENT ABOUT SEXUAL ABUSE
There are many things children tell and want to tell. However, what their young brain finds hard to comprehend is when an unusual thing happens to them and they have have no idea what to do. Of course, while their first instinct is to report to their parents or a guardian or an adult they…
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Preventing Child Sexual Abuse: 6 Proactive Steps
Let’s address something for this week’s blog: child sexual abuse and ways in preventing it. I think, sometimes, we forget or choose to forget children struggle with situations that are bigger than them. Child Sexual Abuse being one of the struggles. Did you know? The experiences a person goes through at a young age tend…
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BLOG HIGHLIGHTS FROM APRIL 2023
Did you know that April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month? So, here are some blog highlights for you! This month, we discussed some interesting topics pertaining to sexual assault. Although you may or may have not experienced it, sexual assault is a menace that concerns everyone one of us. Sexual assault not only devastates the…
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Dear Anita…I was almost Raped by my Parish Priest
I was picked as the leader of a group in my church ( parish level) called HCA Holy Childhood Association. All leaders from different parishes meet once a month. So he( the priest ) who is mobile, would pick some of us who can’t afford transportation to the venue. That’s how I got to know…
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Dear Anita….I was raped on Valentine’s Day
Dear Anita, I was raped on Valentine’s day and it hurts! A day that was supposed to be about love quickly turned to hate for me. I hate him! And I hate myself! How do I live with this? This is the story of a survivor. It holds a lot of lesson and insights (summarized…
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THE 4-STEP PROCESS FOR HEALING FROM SEXUAL ABUSE TRAUMA
Are you confused about how you can heal from the trauma of a sexual abuse experience? If I had to pick THE 4-step process for healing from sexual abuse trauma, from among many others, these would be IT. Healing from sexual abuse and assault trauma can be painful and take a lot of time. But…
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THE MAIN CAUSE OF SEXUAL VICES & MISBEHAVIOURS
Ever wondered what the main cause of sexual vices and misbehaviours are? Sit tight, I’m about to share with you my true life experience. When I was a kid, there was a popular TV drama I loved watching; Super Story. It was a family TV drama that most Nigerian families looked forward to on Thursday…
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“Why Now?” Answering the Question of Why Sexual Violence Survivors ‘Stay Silent’
As I resume writing again on loudislences.org, I was thinking about what people might feel about my ‘silence’ for the last couple months on this platform. While this was due to some life-evalution I was undertaking, I could not help but feel like I owed my readers an explanation. But it was not the first…
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Excuse Me, What is your Excuse?
“Bimpe, Bimpe, Bimpe! How many times did I call you? This life you want to live will not benefit you one bit. Change!”. Mrs. Daniels was trying to advice Bimpe about not ‘selling herself cheaply to me’. “Excuse Me, what is your excuse this time?” Bimpe fired back. “What did you say?” Mrs. Daniels asked.…