Tag: child sexual abuse
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What It Is to Forgive
It’s a cycle. Over and over again. I can’t seem to get past it. Just a single step forward takes me ten steps back. I thought I was better. I thought I felt better. But little did I know what was truly holding me back was my willingness to not forgive. It’s one of the…
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Sometimes, Saying “It Will Get Better” Doesn’t Cut It
I hate being vulnerable. And the times that I have been vulnerable to people, out of many of the words they have said to me, the one phrase I struggled to reconcile with was, “It will get better.” Of course, I understand they have no ill intention for saying that, but even though I would…
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A Journey to Healing
Usually, when something unfortunate happens to someone, they must go through healing to come out a better person. For example, when an injury occurs to any part of your body, you feel the pain and desperately wish it would go away. But with time and proper treatment of the injury, your wound begins its journey…
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ARISE: It’s Time to Get Up
What a peculiar way to title a blog, don’t you think? So, last weekend, my church just celebrated her 11th-year anniversary. We held a celebration by holding a two-day power conference, and the theme was ‘ARISE.” You’d be surprised how many times I have heard the word, ARISE, this year. Let me give you a…
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WHY A CHILD MAY STAY SILENT ABOUT SEXUAL ABUSE
There are many things children tell and want to tell. However, what their young brain finds hard to comprehend is when an unusual thing happens to them and they have have no idea what to do. Of course, while their first instinct is to report to their parents or a guardian or an adult they…
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Preventing Child Sexual Abuse: 6 Proactive Steps
Let’s address something for this week’s blog: child sexual abuse and ways in preventing it. I think, sometimes, we forget or choose to forget children struggle with situations that are bigger than them. Child Sexual Abuse being one of the struggles. Did you know? The experiences a person goes through at a young age tend…
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Dear Anita – My Friend Was Raped to Death Because of Sanitary Pads
Dear Anita, My Friend Was Raped to Death Because of Sanitary Pads. How much does sanitary pads cost?! A rhetorical question. Whatever the cost, is it really worth a life? My friend- a beloved friend, she comes from a family where the parents could barely afford their basic needs. Hence, they paid less attention and…
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BLOG HIGHLIGHTS FROM MAY 2023
Guys, May is done. Today is the last day of May! I know, how can it be? Hard to believe, but here we are. So, we have some blog highlights for you! This month of May is (or was) Mental Health Awareness Month. And, we discussed some interesting topics pertaining to mental health. As it…
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BLOG HIGHLIGHTS FROM APRIL 2023
Did you know that April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month? So, here are some blog highlights for you! This month, we discussed some interesting topics pertaining to sexual assault. Although you may or may have not experienced it, sexual assault is a menace that concerns everyone one of us. Sexual assault not only devastates the…
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Dear Anita…I was almost Raped by my Parish Priest
I was picked as the leader of a group in my church ( parish level) called HCA Holy Childhood Association. All leaders from different parishes meet once a month. So he( the priest ) who is mobile, would pick some of us who can’t afford transportation to the venue. That’s how I got to know…
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5 THINGS THAT IMPACT THE MENTAL HEALTH OF A GIRL CHILD
Today, we will talk about 5 things that impact the mental health of a girl child! The month of October holds both world mental health and international day of the girl child. We thought it made sense to marry both topics into one. Sometimes, we see our child change behaviours and it feels like they…
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THE 4-STEP PROCESS FOR HEALING FROM SEXUAL ABUSE TRAUMA
Are you confused about how you can heal from the trauma of a sexual abuse experience? If I had to pick THE 4-step process for healing from sexual abuse trauma, from among many others, these would be IT. Healing from sexual abuse and assault trauma can be painful and take a lot of time. But…
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DANGERS OF DEALING WITH SEXUAL ABUSE TRAUMA IN SILENCE
IT’S no secret that sexual abuse usually causes trauma in its victims. And there are dangers in dealing with sexual abuse trauma in silence and alone. Sexual abuse victims have to deal with painful, and sometimes, conflicted feelings during and after the abuse. At a point like this, they need help from a family member, a…
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MY FAMILY’S BEST KEPT SECRET
Every family has secrets. I am sure many would agree with me. But would you share yours with me? Some say I spilled my family’s best secret in my new book. But did I? “Seriously, Anita, how can I have a husband who is ‘touching’ my child and I would say or do nothing about…
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Excuse Me, What is your Excuse?
“Bimpe, Bimpe, Bimpe! How many times did I call you? This life you want to live will not benefit you one bit. Change!”. Mrs. Daniels was trying to advice Bimpe about not ‘selling herself cheaply to me’. “Excuse Me, what is your excuse this time?” Bimpe fired back. “What did you say?” Mrs. Daniels asked.…
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What is the big deal about the girl child and her rights anyway?
What is the big deal about the girl child and her rights anyway? I am glad you asked. Let me share the story of a particular girl child. At two she was separated from her parents, especially her mom. Does she not deserve a loving home and care? Or the role model of a loving…
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Undoing the Culture of Silence Series- with Jane Ugwumadu
In August, we started an Instagram live series called “undoing the culture of silence”. Our first guest was Jane Ugwumadu, Director of Save a Child Mission. Save a Child Mission (SACM) exists to protect the rights of vulnerable child, and children in poverty-stricken areas. They do this by “empowering adults with ‘how to’ information and…
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What if you could take a peek into the Future….
The Adult Life of A Sexually Abused Child What if you could take a peek into the future to see what the adult life of a sexually abused child look like? Well you can. But today I will not be sharing my story. I will be sharing someone else’s. You know yourself and I want…